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5 Tips For New Submissives

If you’re starting to explore your submissive side or starting to experiment with dominance & submission in the bedroom, then there are few things that are important to keep in mind. Regardless of what any erotica or fantasy books & movies might show, there is no “one” right way to be submissive. But there are…

Bawdy Storytelling – The Defiant Balloons

I tell stories a lot. Some of my friends lovingly call it “The Kali Show” (well, at least they mostly say it lovingly!) When I meet new people, or am hanging out with friends or am teaching classes…there’s always a story to tell. I like my stories to entertain and inform and since my life…

The progression of a professional pervert….

  I’ve always been rather sexually adventurous, so when many people ask me out I got into this profession I explain that it was a rather simple stepping stone process. I remember when I first started stripping and I found it to be empowering rather than degrading. My self-confidence grew, my assertiveness grew stronger and…

Teaching Kink is like a Soulgasm

  Teaching kink is totally my high. When I get up in front of a class to present my thoughts and experiences with perversion, I get in a totally euphoric state. After teaching for so many years I’ve thought a lot about why that is, and why it is so thoroughly awesome. Growing up, it…

What is the difference between a fetish and a fantasy?

The term “fetish” is used pretty loosely these days to mean anything that really really turns someone on. But there is an official definition, and here it is… From Wikipedia.com “Sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism, is the sexual arousal a person receives from a physical object, or from a specific situation” So when the term…

Struggling With Submission As A Woman

In my experience there can be a great deal of guilt on both sides of the D/s dynamic, regardless of gender. So I’m going to do a series of articles about some of the struggles and solutions from each perspective. I presented one of my favorite ‘conceptual’ classes at Ramabo College, D/s as a Feminist…

Sexy Consent

  Sexual Consent is a hot topic these days & rightfully so. You can give & receive consent in sexy ways, keeping boundaries clear * and* keeping the sexy mood going. The most important thing is recognizing how important clear, informed consent is as a vital part of healthy sexual experiences. Making sure everyone is…

How do I bring a Second Dominant into My Established Cuckolding Relationship?

  I recently received this email and thought it would make a great blog post to share my thoughts with everyone! Dear Princess Kali, I have read a lot about you and have seen many of your videos and I really appreciate what you bring to the kink community. Even though I have never heard…

5 Things To Remember As A New Dominant

Everyone has to start somewhere. Even if we have a naturally dominant nature, putting that to use in a D/s context can have its challenges. There are a lot of novels & fantasy stories about how ‘easily’ it all comes when someone is a “true dominant”, but this isn’t any more accurate than saying how…

Sexy Restraints!

  Restraints are part of a wide range of fantasies. There are a handful of reasons why restraints are so popular, one of the most frequent reasons is the release of control. Letting go of control can lead to powerful connections and powerful orgasms (even better when those are happening at the same time!). For…

Kinky Polyamory

  A while back I did an interview with Cunning Minx for her podcast Poly Weekly and we talked about being poly AND kinky. I shared my experience of having multiple submissives for many years and that even though we didn’t have a traditionally “sexual” relationship I still identified (and still do) as poly because…

Domination Styles

  Ok, so you’ve determined that you’re dominant (or perhaps a switch with a strong dominant side), now what? If you emulate porn, it’s likely you won’t keep play partners very long, since porn is based on fantasy (and making it look easy) but reality isn’t always so smooth. One of the first things you…

What is a Kink Life Coach? What is a Kinky Sex Coach?

What is a kink life coach? What is a kinky sex coach? This is a new frontier in improving your life and sexual experiences. Sex Coaching itself is a new title, and a Kinky Sex Coach is simply a niche version. Life Coaching has been around for a while now, it’s rather unregulated but can…

Long Distance Kink – Power Play

The kink community can seem both large and small, but one thing is for sure, we’re all over the nation, and the world. It isn’t unusual for to perverts to play together at an event, make a great connection, and decide to carry on a relationship (be it D/s, service or sexual) long distance. At…

Keeping the Lust Alive – more sexy secrets about making time to connect

Sexy time can sometimes slip down the to-do list when life gets busy…so here are some tips to keep the sparks alive and your romantic motor revving. Sometimes it only takes a minute. With a sexy attitude a lot of tension can be built & expressed in only a minute or two. Run your hands…

Keeping Your Kinky Connection, Even With a Busy Schedule

  Many couples that enjoy kinky sex and/ or relationship structures feel that it’s important for BDSM to not be just something that is done in the bedroom but rather as a way to live life. For others kinky sex is something fun to explore but only in the bedroom. Regardless, keeping kink in your…

So your guy is a foot fetishist…what now?

  So your guy is a foot fetishist…what now? I have to admit that foot fetishism has a special place in my heart, it was my first introduction into the BDSM world and it suddenly explained my own deeply felt response to wearing an amazing pair of shoes or seeing my toes look perfectly pedicured.…

What has #BeingKinky done for you?

  I have a love/hate relationship with Twitter, but one thing I do love about it is the kind of ‘crowd-source’ responses that can come through if a question is posed. One night I was thinking about all the amazing things being kinky (both personally and professionally) has done for me and wondered what other…

Expensive events, expensive gear…can you be kinky with a low (or non-existent!) budget?

  I’ve been both a professional and personal kinkster for over 10 years, and I’ll admit to having a wardrobe/kinky toy fetish. Because of the professional need (and the personal enjoyment ;) I’ve acquired a huge collection of latex & leather clothing, kinky toys of all kinds including multiple floggers/whips/paddles & the like, plus a…

My first AASECT Experience

For those of you that don’t know, AASECT (also known as American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists) is a professional organization for sexuality professionals. It provides ‘certification’ in sex education as well as membership to individuals that are not yet certified (or not interested in certification) all with the purpose of learning, networking…

Thank you so much for a wonderful fun and informative class. I enjoyed how animated, creative, and engaged you were and appreciated that you offered [the class] a chance to ask questions and share experiences. I will be on the look out for more of your classes in the future!

Stormy

Thank you for a great class last night. I identify as a submissive and found the insights into the Dominants views very helpful. I feel I walked away with new tools to help with better communication and understanding in my relationships.

Ms Mode

Thank you for your class at IMsL, I thoroughly enjoyed it. I'd never been to a Humiliation/Degradation class before, so I really learned a lot. The most interesting part was learning about different levels/intensities of play in the spectrum, and all the options that were available.

Cricket

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