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Superstar Branding for Sex Educators

Are you a current or aspiring sex, kink, or relationship presenter? Do you feel confused by how to set yourself apart in the growing adult sex-education industry? Do you feel that you’re struggling to communicate your expertise in a way that actually gets you booked for classes or makes you any money? The adult sex-ed…

Is Ethical Financial Domination Even Possible?

Recently I received this message in my Fetlife inbox. “Is Ethical Financial Domination even possible?” I’m always a bit surprised to hear this from fellow kinksters, though I shouldn’t be. Can’t that question be applied to everything we do? “Is ethical [your favorite kink here] even possible?  Someone who doesn’t understand how consent and context is critically…

Making Bank: A Budget Workbook for Erotic Entrepreneurs

For many years, Princess Kali approached the money she made from her career in sex work with an “easy come, easy go” attitude. There was always enough, and there was always more on the way. But as her money goals grew beyond impulsive daily desires and monthly rent, she realized she needed to shift her…

Red Key Club: Creating a Client Retention Strategy (Virtual Class)

Creating a Client Retention Strategy May 2, 2020 10am to 12pm PDT   If you’re looking to build a sustainable business, then having a client retention strategy is critical. It’s tough to be successful if you’re constantly hustling for new applicants. This isn’t about being sneaky, or sleazy, or stringing clients along. Ethical business practices…

Free Virtual Class for ProDommes – Defining Your Ideal Client

Free Virtual Class The ProDomme Playbook: Define Your Ideal Client Profile (also appropriate for PSOs, Cam Models, and other SWs) This is a scary time for many of us, and it’s important to take care of both our physical health and our emotional health right now. If you need to take this time to rest,…

Free Virtual Class – Branding & Marketing for ProDommes 

The ProDomme Playbook: Branding and Marketing for ProDommes  (also appropriate for PSOs, Cam Models, and other SWs)   This is a scary time for many of us, and it’s important to take care of both our physical health and our emotional health right now. If you need to take this time to rest, you can…

Coming Soon: The ProDomme Playbook

I’ve been working on my next interactive kink book with a plan to launch it in June, but thanks to the recent world-wide turn of events, I know a lot of folks in the fetish industry are trying to figure out their next steps. So I’m hustling to get it finished as soon as possible…

Authentic Kink: Create Your Best Experience

Kinksters often have to depend on erotica and porn to learn what kink looks and feels like, but unfortunately that can create a lot of myths, misunderstandings, and accidental mistakes. BDSM is focused on activities, but just going through the motions won’t guarantee you’ll have a happy, healthy experience. It can take years (and plenty…

Can you teach submission?

One of the reasons I love twitter is the ability to have conversation with people around the world and get inspired by what others are experiencing and talking about. So when Domina Dynasty posed this question on twitter, I was intrigued… Can you teach someone to be submissive? It’s a really interesting question and like…

Living in a Post 50 Shades World

In 2011, three unassuming fan fiction books were published, and before long the world had collectively lost its mind.   By 2012, over 20 million copies of the books had been sold and the mainstream world was suddenly aware of kink in a brand new way.  BDSM was being discussed and debated on every morning…

6 Steps to a More Fulfilling Sex Life

These ideas are meant to be simple(ish) and free (of financial need). But that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy or that it isn’t going to take any investment. It will be an investment of time, and you may find that doing the simplest thing may be more difficult that you first imagined. But…

On experts, professionals and players…

Reverend Danny Smite posted this open letter today in response to an interview with professional Humiliatrix Ceara Lynch on The Joe Rogan Experience podcast. Here are my thoughts…. Not everyone who does kink professionally feels connected to the activities on a personal level and that’s ok. I don’t think Ceara has ever identified herself as…

Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation – Available for sale!

Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation is ready and available for sale! I am so proud of this book and I hope you enjoy it. Inside it you’ll find: The difference between embarrassment, humiliation & degradation Why kinksters enjoy consensual psychological torment Tips for communicating your desires for both dominants & submissives The…

It’s almost ready! – a book about Erotic Humiliation

Writing a book is a really involved project. The seedling of an idea gets planted and then years may go by as you think, collect notes and brainstorm ideas to share. In my case, nearly 10 years have gone by as I’ve presented this topic dozens of times at different kink events across the country.…

A few kinky shopping tips!

Q: I’m just starting to explore my kinks & fetishes, what should I purchase before I really know what I like? A: Start with the ‘vanilla’ items that resemble kink items such as a wooden spoon for a paddle, scarves or neckties for bondage (be sure to keep safety scissors handy to cut them off…

5 Tips For New Submissives

If you’re starting to explore your submissive side or starting to experiment with dominance & submission in the bedroom, then there are few things that are important to keep in mind. Regardless of what any erotica or fantasy books & movies might show, there is no “one” right way to be submissive. But there are…

Bawdy Storytelling – The Defiant Balloons

I tell stories a lot. Some of my friends lovingly call it “The Kali Show” (well, at least they mostly say it lovingly!) When I meet new people, or am hanging out with friends or am teaching classes…there’s always a story to tell. I like my stories to entertain and inform and since my life…

The progression of a professional pervert….

I’ve always been rather sexually adventurous, so when many people ask me out I got into this profession I explain that it was a rather simple stepping stone process. I remember when I first started stripping and I found it to be empowering rather than degrading. My self-confidence grew, my assertiveness grew stronger and I…

Teaching Kink is like a Soulgasm

Teaching kink is totally my high. When I get up in front of a class to present my thoughts and experiences with perversion, I get in a totally euphoric state. After teaching for so many years I’ve thought a lot about why that is, and why it is so thoroughly awesome. Growing up, it was…

What is the difference between a fetish and a fantasy?

The term “fetish” is used pretty loosely these days to mean anything that really really turns someone on. But there is an official definition, and here it is… From Wikipedia.com “Sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism, is the sexual arousal a person receives from a physical object, or from a specific situation” So when the term…

Thank you so much for a wonderful fun and informative class. I enjoyed how animated, creative, and engaged you were and appreciated that you offered [the class] a chance to ask questions and share experiences. I will be on the look out for more of your classes in the future!

Stormy

Thank you for a great class last night. I identify as a submissive and found the insights into the Dominants views very helpful. I feel I walked away with new tools to help with better communication and understanding in my relationships.

Ms Mode

Thank you for your class at IMsL, I thoroughly enjoyed it. I'd never been to a Humiliation/Degradation class before, so I really learned a lot. The most interesting part was learning about different levels/intensities of play in the spectrum, and all the options that were available.

Cricket

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