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FinDom Fumbles: The Top 3 Errors New Doms Make
So, you’ve decided to dip your toes into the fascinating world of financial domination! Maybe you’ve heard stories of expensive gifts, loyal submissives, or waking up to a surprise $1,000 tribute. Maybe you’re enticed by the allure of being in control of someone else’s finances (who could blame you?). But before you dive headfirst into…
Findom Debt Contracts: The Allure of Erotic Paperwork
The allure of financial domination lies in the exhilarating power dynamics it cultivates, and at the heart of this dynamic lies the commitment of a debt contract—a potent symbol of submission and devotion that sets pulses racing in the world of findom. For findoms (financial dominants), the seductive appeal of a debt contract lies not…
Dominant Led, Submissive Driven: Navigating Challenges in Female-Led Relationships
In the world of female-led, male submissive relationships (FLRs), the dynamic of a female dominant (also known as a femdom) and a male submissive can create a unique and fulfilling bond. However, one common challenge often arises: the femdom feeling overwhelmed and obligated to manage everything while the submissive waits passively, leading to frustration on…
Elevate Your Findom Confidence with the FinDom Philosophy: Virtual Intensive
Hey there! If you’ve ever dipped your toes into the world of financial domination (findom), you know it can be both exhilarating and daunting. Whether you’re a newbie or a seasoned pro, building and sustaining confidence and a genuine understanding is crucial for success and enjoyment in this unique kink. That’s where my intensive comes…
Finding the Filthy Words That Are Music To Your Ears: Verbal Erotic Humiliation
Exploring the realms of dirty talk and filthy words can be an exhilarating journey, especially when delving into consensual erotic humiliation play scenes. Verbal Erotic Humiliation Is a Powerful Tool One of the most thrilling aspects of humiliation kink is the exploration of language. Words, when wielded with intention, have the power to electrify the…
27 Times To Send To Your Favorite FinDom
In the fabulous world of financial domination, sending money to your favorite findom is more than just a transaction—it’s a way to show loyalty, devotion, appreciation, adoration, respect, and so much more. Financial tributes and gifts carry a lot of meaning, transforming ordinary moments into powerful statements of submission and connection. This isn’t just about…
Creating Female Led Relationship Rules That Work
For many years, all of my submissives were required to greet me properly. This meant requesting permission, kneeling at my feet, and kissing my feet three times. Rules like this immediately re-immerse you both into your chosen roles in a female-led relationship or other Dominant/submissive dynamic. Female-led relationships (FLRs) are unique and empowering dynamics where…
Announcing the First Annual International FinDom Day
As a long time findomme and financial domination enthusiast, I’ve decided that we money kinksters need a holiday to celebrate our kink. Since I created National Erotic Humiliation Day in 2016, it’s been a delight to join my fellow humiliation fetishists in celebrating our shared proclivities. Shedding light on erotic humiliation feels especially meaningful since…
Selecting the Right Kink Coach for Your Journey
So, you and your partner have delved into the enticing world of femdom and Female Led Relationships (FLRs), where the power dynamics tilt in favor of the woman. It’s not just about bedroom antics; it’s a lifestyle, a dynamic that infuses your everyday existence with a delicious dose of power play and mutual satisfaction. But,…
Common Obstacles to Mutually Satisfying Erotic Humiliation
Like any risky or “out-of-the-norm” activity, there are plenty of obstacles that might make it difficult for people to either find opportunities to engage or even express their interest in humiliation play. Here are a few that I’ve seen come up over and over again: Most Common Obstacles to Erotic Humiliation Play Not Many People…
Are Money Hang-Ups Holding You Back in Findom?
Have you ever thought about why you feel the way you do about money? Maybe you feel a pang of guilt when you splurge on something nice or perhaps you feel a rush of excitement when your bank balance goes up. These feelings aren’t just random; they’re deeply rooted in our personal money stories—narratives shaped…
What’s It Like to Attend the FinDom Philosophy: Virtual Intensive?
If you’ve signed up for the FinDom Philosophy: Virtual Intensive (or are thinking about it), Welcome! I’m thrilled to have you there, and I know it’s going to be a valuable training. But I also know it’s a big commitment, and I imagine you haven’t had the opportunity to attend an intensive like this—at least,…
Why I Changed the Name of My FinDom Intensive
I have been leading a 2-day virtual intensive class on financial domination for the past four years, teaching about it for nearly a decade, and I’ve been playing with financial domination for more than twenty years. In all this time, I am continually struck by how many people—including kinksters!—think of findom as inherently abusive. The…
Embracing Submission: The Power of Affirmations in FLRs
In the realm of relationships, there exists a vast spectrum of dynamics, each unique and tailored to the individuals involved. Among these, Female Led Relationships (FLRs) stand out as a paradigm where the woman takes the lead, guiding the relationship’s direction, dynamics, and often, the intimate aspects too. Within this framework, affirmations, those empowering statements…
3 Common Stereotypes about Erotic Humiliation
A lot of folks who might be curious about erotic humiliation avoid exploring it because, more than just about any other aspect of BDSM, it’s tied up in a long list of negative stereotypes about both the behavior and the people who engage in it. If these stereotypes have stopped you from exploring your…
What’s Your “Kernel Kink”?
Kink is all about feelings—or, more specifically, seeking out and creating certain feelings for ourselves and our partners. Why do we want someone to whip us and call us dirty names? Why do we want to “force” our (enthusiastically willing) submissive to drink our piss and call us mistress? Why do we want to do…
The 4 C’s of a Successful Scene
Hey, people who are new to exploring kink and sexuality! An important thing to remember as you’re starting out is that the hottest experiences can take a little time to build. No one is going to be your perfect Dom or sub from the start. Here are the 4 C’s of a successful…
Inspiration for Every Fancy: 15 Types of Erotic Humiliation Play
Erotic humiliation is a huge umbrella kink, and there are nearly as many ways to customize play as there are players. In my book, Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, I take a deep dive into fifteen different types of erotic humiliation play. Here, I’m giving you the basic highlights of each—just enough…
What IS Erotic Humiliation, Anyway?
Of all the kinks to be found in the world (and believe me, they are limitless), erotic humiliation is one of the most mysterious and least understood, among new and veteran kinksters alike. As a former professional dominatrix who’s also spent more than twenty years as a lifestyle domme and kink educator with a special…
Enough To Make You Blush: Updated Edition – Now Available!
I’m thrilled to announce that the updated and expanded edition of Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation is now available! It’s almost incomprehensible to me that seven years have passed since I published the first edition of this book in 2015; it feels like both an eternity and an instant. During all that…
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