Category: Blog Post - Page 5 - Coaching By Kali

Keeping the Lust Alive – more sexy secrets about making time to connect

Sexy time can sometimes slip down the to-do list when life gets busy…so here are some tips to keep the sparks alive and your romantic motor revving. Sometimes it only takes a minute. With a sexy attitude a lot of tension can be built & expressed in only a minute or two. Run your hands…

Keeping Your Kinky Connection, Even With a Busy Schedule

Many couples that enjoy kinky sex and/ or relationship structures feel that it’s important for BDSM to not be just something that is done in the bedroom but rather as a way to live life. For others kinky sex is something fun to explore but only in the bedroom. Regardless, keeping kink in your…

So your guy is a foot fetishist…what now?

So your guy is a foot fetishist…what now? I have to admit that foot fetishism has a special place in my heart, it was my first introduction into the BDSM world and it suddenly explained my own deeply felt response to wearing an amazing pair of shoes or seeing my toes look perfectly pedicured.…

What has #BeingKinky done for you?

I have a love/hate relationship with Twitter, but one thing I do love about it is the kind of ‘crowd-source’ responses that can come through if a question is posed. One night I was thinking about all the amazing things being kinky (both personally and professionally) has done for me and wondered what other…

Expensive events, expensive gear…can you be kinky with a low (or non-existent!) budget?

I’ve been both a professional and personal kinkster for over 10 years, and I’ll admit to having a wardrobe/kinky toy fetish. Because of the professional need (and the personal enjoyment ;) I’ve acquired a huge collection of latex & leather clothing, kinky toys of all kinds including multiple floggers/whips/paddles & the like, plus a…

My first AASECT Experience

For those of you that don’t know, AASECT (also known as American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists) is a professional organization for sexuality professionals. It provides ‘certification’ in sex education as well as membership to individuals that are not yet certified (or not interested in certification) all with the purpose of learning, networking…

What’s your name? Using Pseudonyms in The Scene

“I’d like to introduce you to Lady-Mistress Catwhiskers, Supreme Being of the Universe.” “Hello there, I’m Frank.” “Greetings, I am Lord Knockerlots and this is My property, slut zisc.” These are examples of how people might introduce themselves in the Scene, examples of the wide variety of ways that kinksters identify. Names and titles have…

“Why Kink?”

“Why Kink?” I hear this question from a wide variety of people. After we’ve discussed what I do for a living, there is an inevitable pause, and the “But why would someone want to be kinky?” There are so many answers to that question that I thought it would be perfect to list a…

Fess’ Up When You Fuck Up

Last year I was too attached to the outcome of a scene/performance and I acted in a way that I’m not terribly proud of. Of course it’s difficult to admit to mistakes, especially when perfectionism is something of struggle, but I think it’s important to talk about times when things don’t go as planned. It’s…

Don’t judge a Book by it’s Cover

There have been many occasions that people have shown surprise when they find out I am a professional dominatrix. “But you seem so nice!” they say, or “I couldn’t imagine you being that mean, you’re so happy.” These statements always make me laugh, and gives me an opportunity to explain that there are many ways…