lifestyle coaching

Everyone who wants to explore kink should explore kink.

That’s the first tenet of my philosophy about kink sexuality, and my coaching clients agree.

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But it’s not always quite that simple.

Life can throw obstacles in the way of our exploration and growth and getting help in overcoming these obstacles can be the fastest way to success.

Kink isn’t the same for everyone. While you may want just a little of the submissive-dominant dynamic in your bedroom, your partner may want a kink experience that incorporates every toy and technique in the book. You may have already gotten fairly deep into your kink lifestyle and need advice on taking it to the next level safely. You may have questions on a specific kink sexual act: how to whip your partner, how to use humiliation, how to gauge the level of pain your partner really wants while in the heat of the moment.

I’ve got the answers to all of those questions, and answers to questions that you may not even think to ask. I offer a safe place to explore kink sexuality, practical advice on exactly how to perform the kink techniques that you’re interested in, and years of firsthand experience as a professional and lifestyle dominatrix and BDSM educator.

If you are truly interested in deepening your experience of kink, a coach is one of the most invaluable investments you can make. Kink sexuality touches on trust and vulnerability, the balance of pleasure and pain, personal boundaries and taboos, and your sense of self. I have always believed kink is one of the most rewarding experiences in life, with benefits that extend far outside the bedroom.

A good coach – with a lifetime of experience – can help you avoid the hiccups and get straight to the mind-bending, world-shattering core of kink sexuality.

Are YOU ready to prioritize your kinky self?

Common issues addressed by kink coaching include:

Gaining confidence in your dominance

Incorporating more kink in your life or relationship

Creating more connection with your partner

Figuring out what your interests and desires are

Handling when one partner is more experienced than the other

Effectively presenting yourself to find the most ideal partner/relationship

Knowing what to do “in scene”

Talking about desires when you’re shy or not sure what you want

Improving dating profiles to attract the most ideal partner/relationship

I particularly specialize in helping women embrace and expand their sexual dominance.

What You Get

Phone/Zoom sessions with me
(60-75 minutes per session)

Optional recording(s) so you can reference our discussion later

Suggested resources and exercises to continue progress on your own


All packages are paid for in advance, are non-refundable and can be used for up to 6 months after purchase.
I can help you choose a package based on your situation and goals.







(save $200)

Receive a 3-month membership
to and a Kink Essentials Book Package




(save $400)

Receive a 6-month membership
to and a Kink Elite Book Package

Now Accepting New Clients!

Interested in working together?

Please fill out this quick form.

Please answer these questions with as much or as little information as you’re comfortable with. The more information you share the better I'll be able to tell if we're a good match and if I'll be able to help you meet your goals. All information is confidential.

When I'm scheduling new clients, I'll contact you with further details.


All sessions are done by phone or Zoom video conferencing, so it doesn't matter where you live
(I'm based in the San Francisco, CA area on Pacific Time.)

What's Next?

If we decide to move forward together I’ll send you a simple intake survey that will help me understand the challenges you are currently facing. Once you purchase the package best suited to your needs, we’ll schedule our first session and create a game plan!

In each session you will be given concrete, actionable suggestions to improve your kink experience immediately.
Check out my Testimonials Page to see how I’ve helped people just like you.

I made more progress than I could’ve imagined in a much shorter time than I ever expected.

- Jade

Kali is a gifted coach.  She helped me look deeply into the complexity of my emotions, desires, and predilections.  And, from this, I was able to come to terms, meet if you will, my true self.

Our work together was a wonderful journey.

Yes, Kali helped me to find my personal kink but, in doing so, she helped me navigate emotions, ideas, even business challenges, seamlessly as we worked together.  I've worked with other coaches, psychotherapists, dakinis, dommes shamen, etc. but none with her innate talents and intelligence.

If you have a chance to work with her, you won't be disappointed.

- JP


I am currently accepting new clients, with limited availability. Check back here, follow me on Twitter or Instagram, or join my newsletter for announcements.

Are you a ProDom (or aspiring ProDom) looking for mentorship?

I offer specialized guidance for industry folks, check out more information here.

What a wonderful, dynamic and powerful presentation at Dark Odyssey! We are absolutely going to get your book and workbook. Your experience is very valuable and we found it immediately helpful.


Thank you for your presentation and presence at the meeting. I am new in the kink world and I am loving exploring the exchange of power and play. And thank you for reminding folks that a sense of playfulness incorporated into your kink is important!


It was a phenomenal class. My friends and I had a grand time and came away as more informed and thoughtful participants in our play. Your kindness, thoughts, and attention are well and truly appreciated.


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