It’s natural in any long term relationship to find lulls in your libidos. There are a lot of possible factors: to busy, to tired, focus on work, stress at home, body image issues and sometimes our libidos go into hibernation for no discernible reason. Of course this is only a problem, well, if it’s a…

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I was super excited to participate in Bare! True Stories of Sex, Desire and Romance this week as my last appearance in Boston before moving West (I’ll be back in Boston soon enough to visit!) I had a great time telling stories (I always do :) and though we didn’t catch it in the video,…

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A while back I did an interview with Cunning Minx for her podcast Poly Weekly and we talked about being poly AND kinky. I shared my experience of having multiple submissives for many years and that even though we didn’t have a traditionally “sexual” relationship I still identified (and still do) as poly because the…

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Ok, so you’ve determined that you’re dominant (or perhaps a switch with a strong dominant side), now what? If you emulate porn, it’s likely you won’t keep play partners very long, since porn is based on fantasy (and making it look easy) but reality isn’t always so smooth. One of the first things you can…

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What is a kink life coach? What is a kinky sex coach? This is a new frontier in improving your life and sexual experiences. Sex Coaching itself is a new title, and a Kinky Sex Coach is simply a niche version. Life Coaching has been around for a while now, it’s rather unregulated but can…

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The kink community can seem both large and small, but one thing is for sure, we’re all over the nation, and the world. It isn’t unusual for to perverts to play together at an event, make a great connection, and decide to carry on a relationship (be it D/s, service or sexual) long distance. At…

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Many couples that enjoy kinky sex and/ or relationship structures feel that it’s important for BDSM to not be just something that is done in the bedroom but rather as a way to live life. For others kinky sex is something fun to explore but only in the bedroom. Regardless, keeping kink in your life…

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So your guy is a foot fetishist…what now? I have to admit that foot fetishism has a special place in my heart, it was my first introduction into the BDSM world and it suddenly explained my own deeply felt response to wearing an amazing pair of shoes or seeing my toes look perfectly pedicured. First…

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Here, I present to you a long list of ways to have kinkier sex. It is not by any stretch of the imagination the only ways, and some options may be obvious for some people but inspiring for others. All links go to KinkAcademy.com and PassionateU.com for video supplemental information. Just click through the waiver…

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