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Is Ethical Financial Domination Even Possible?

Recently I received this message in my Fetlife inbox. “Is Ethical Financial Domination even possible?” I’m always a bit surprised to hear this from fellow kinksters, though I shouldn’t be. Can’t that question be applied to everything we do? “Is ethical [your favorite kink here] even possible? Someone who doesn’t understand how consent and context is critically…

Making Bank: A Budget Workbook for Erotic Entrepreneurs

For many years, Princess Kali approached the money she made from her career in sex work with an “easy come, easy go” attitude. There was always enough, and there was always more on the way. But as her money goals grew beyond impulsive daily desires and monthly rent, she realized she needed to shift her…

Authentic Kink: Create Your Best Experience

Kinksters often have to depend on erotica and porn to learn what kink looks and feels like, but unfortunately that can create a lot of myths, misunderstandings, and accidental mistakes. BDSM is focused on activities, but just going through the motions won’t guarantee you’ll have a happy, healthy experience. It can take years (and plenty…

I remember the very first DomCon…

I remember the very first DomCon at the Beverly Garland hotel nestled in Hollywood. I don’t remember how I first heard about DomCon but I do remember how excited I was there. I was 23 years old and had only recently discovered the BDSM world and in my usual way through myself into it and…

Aftercare is for Everyone!

For the first decade of my exploration in the kink scene, whenever I heard about Aftercare it was in the context of something the dominant was supposed to provide to the submissive. It was very clear, due to the tone and nature of any discussion about Aftercare that there was definitely “One Twue Way” of…