In my experience there can be a great deal of guilt on both sides of the D/s dynamic, regardless of gender. So I’m going to do a series of articles about some of the struggles and solutions from each perspective. I presented one of my favorite ‘conceptual’ classes at Ramabo College, D/s as a Feminist…

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Everyone has to start somewhere. Even if we have a naturally dominant nature, putting that to use in a D/s context can have its challenges. There are a lot of novels & fantasy stories about how ‘easily’ it all comes when someone is a “true dominant”, but this isn’t any more accurate than saying how…

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The kink community can seem both large and small, but one thing is for sure, we’re all over the nation, and the world. It isn’t unusual for to perverts to play together at an event, make a great connection, and decide to carry on a relationship (be it D/s, service or sexual) long distance. At…

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Many couples that enjoy kinky sex and/ or relationship structures feel that it’s important for BDSM to not be just something that is done in the bedroom but rather as a way to live life. For others kinky sex is something fun to explore but only in the bedroom. Regardless, keeping kink in your life…

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Here, I present to you a long list of ways to have kinkier sex. It is not by any stretch of the imagination the only ways, and some options may be obvious for some people but inspiring for others. All links go to KinkAcademy.com and PassionateU.com for video supplemental information. Just click through the waiver…

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There has been a lot of hype around the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy. As someone who has enjoyed “kinky fuckery” for the majority of both my personal and professional lives, I found this phenomenon incredibly interesting. Some of the media coverage and article titles were as sensationalistic as would be expected “Mommy Porn Explodes!”…

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