What’s it like to attend the Design Your Dominance: Virtual Intensive?

If you’ve signed up for the Design Your Dominance: Virtual Intensive (or are thinking about it), Welcome! I’m thrilled to have you there, and I know it’s going to be a valuable training.

But I also know it’s a big commitment, and I imagine you haven’t had the opportunity to attend an intensive like this—at least, not in the kink space, as educational resources for this particular kink remain rare.

So, I wanted to take a moment to answer some of the questions I hear most frequently from prospective attendees. This way, you’ll know what to expect before we get started, so you can spend your energy focusing on the content, not the logistics.

What exactly is a virtual weekend learning intensive?

Think of an intensive as a turbocharged educational experience squeezed into a couple of days, all from the comfort of your own space. It’s like attending a conference or workshop, but without the hassle of travel and accommodation. You’ll be immersed in a focused learning environment, with an expert instructor (that’s me!) guiding you through four core foundational classes exploring and expressing your erotic dominance.

How do I prepare for a virtual learning intensive?

First, clear your schedule. Treat this weekend like you would any in-person event, and plan to give it your full attention. If you can, consider blocking off the day after the intensive too, so you can rest and recuperate.

Next, make sure your tech setup is ready to go. Check your internet connection, ensure your device is up to the task, and learn the basics of Zoom, which is the platform we’ll be using (you don’t need an account).

When it comes time for the actual event, minimize distractions, set up your workbooks (more on those below) and pens, grab some snacks, and get ready to absorb knowledge like a sponge.

Will I be able to interact with Kali and other participants?

Absolutely! Over the years of doing virtual weekend intensives, I’ve developed a structure for the day that includes tons of Q&A time and small-group discussions along with the pre-designed informational presentations (which each include a dynamic slide deck to you remember the content in multiple ways).

What’s the energy of the event?

I bring a lot of passion and excitement when I teach, and in testimonials from previous intensives and classes I’ve been described as “fun,” “warm,” “easygoing,” “non judgmental,” “engaging,” “highly knowledgeable,” “inclusive,” and “structured yet adaptable” (aww, shucks ).

I work hard to make it easy for you to pay attention, feel inspired, and get the most out of the experience.

Will I receive course materials or resources?

This intensive doesn’t include the slide decks or recordings, but you’ll receive a full paperback workbook and digital mini-notebook to support whichever kind of note-taking you prefer (hand written or digital), if you’re into that sort of thing.

How do I stay focused during long virtual sessions?

I know it can be tough to maintain focus when you’re in front of a screen for hours on end, but there are plenty of tricks to help you stay engaged.

• We’ll be mixing up the learning styles through-out each day (presentation with slide deck, Q&A session, small group discussions) to help your brain receive the important info in a variety of ways.
• Another important part of staying focused, is participating! Don’t be afraid to ask questions or get into the group discussions to keep your brain firing on all cylinders.
• Stay hydrated and fueled with snacks to keep your energy levels up.
• I’ve also built different kinds of breaks into the content. We’ll have stretch breaks, bathroom breaks, and meal breaks so you won’t have to worry about missing content in order to take care of your body.

Can I attend a virtual learning intensive in my pajamas?

Absolutely! I have a “comfort kink” and am a big fan of wearing pajamas (I’m even known for doing so at in-person conferences), so I’ll always encourage you to dress comfortably so you’re not distracted during the day.

What are the small groups like?

During each class block, there’s a 15- minute section where we’ll do “break-out groups.” If you’re not usually a fan of small groups, don’t worry: I designed this part of the experience with you in mind!

First of all, I’ll provide questions to guide the conversation, and you’ll have a leader to keep you on track and make sure everyone gets a chance to participate. And here’s the best news: There are no grades handed out, and there’s no goal to achieve other than to share your thoughts about your experiences and what you’re learning.

In the feedback for my other intensives, there’s a recurring theme of surprise at how enjoyable the small groups are!

How can I make the most of my virtual learning intensive experience?

Be present, choose to be engaged, and be curious. Take advantage of every opportunity to interact with me and fellow participants (including the pre-intensive introduction event and follow-up coaching sessions).

Ask questions, take notes, share your insights, and be brave enough to step out of your comfort zone. And most importantly, have fun! Learning should be an enjoyable journey of discovery, so come to the experience with an open mind.

So, there you have it!

If you have any additional questions, either before you register or leading up to the event, feel free to reach out. Ultimately, this event is designed to teach you concepts and strategies to develop (or hone) your understanding of your Dominant Self. After this event you’ll have a clear, confident picture of exactly who you are (and who you want to be) when standing in your erotic power!

Get more details about the Design Your Dominance: Virtual Intensive happening October 25-26, 2025 here.

Note: This intensive is designed for those who live or have lived in the world as women and want to claim their erotic dominance, including trans women and non-binary people who resonate with femdom identity. All experience levels and sexual orientations are all welcome. Submissives and cis-men are not allowed at this event.

The Design Your Dominance: Virtual Intensive is a highly curated event to ensure the best experience for everyone who attends.