How I Discovered My Own Domme Aesthetic

Kali in a purple ballgown

When I got into the professional kink world nearly 25 years ago, the standard look was typically latex and leather. While there were some exceptions, like Mistress Precious in Texas, who dresses elegantly and wears a signature bow in her hair, and Mistress Ellen in San Diego, who favors a prim Victorian look, the majority…

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Princess Kali’s 7 Principles of Dominance

Dominance isn’t about relentlessly pretending to be an all-powerful ruler without emotions or flaws. It’s about being a real human who enjoys expressing and exploring positive personal power in a consensual D/s dynamic. Over the years, through all of my lifestyle and professional kink adventures, I’ve learned to root my dominance in seven core principles.…

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Affirmations for Dominants: Growing Your Confidence and Connection

Gain More Dominant Confidence With Affirmations Being a Dominant in a kinky relationship is about much more than taking control or setting rules. It’s a role that requires confidence, leadership, connection, and a deep level of self-acceptance. Yet, even the most experienced Doms can struggle with self-doubt, uncertainty, or the occasional feeling of inadequacy. We…

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Kinky Polyamory

  A while back I did an interview with Cunning Minx for her podcast Poly Weekly and we talked about being poly AND kinky. I shared my experience of having multiple submissives for many years and that even though we didn’t have a traditionally “sexual” relationship I still identified (and still do) as poly because…

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Domination Styles

  Ok, so you’ve determined that you’re dominant (or perhaps a switch with a strong dominant side), now what? If you emulate porn, it’s likely you won’t keep play partners very long, since porn is based on fantasy (and making it look easy) but reality isn’t always so smooth. One of the first things you…

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