Workshops Available

All workshops can be done in 60, 90, or 120 minutes.

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Featured Workshops

Authentic Kink 

Kinksters often have to depend on erotica and porn to learn what kink looks and feels like, but unfortunately that can create a lot of myths, misunderstandings and accidental mistakes. BDSM is so focused on activity, but just because you’re going through the motions doesn’t mean you’ll have a happy, healthy experience. It can take years (and plenty of bad scenes) to help you learn exactly what you enjoy and why. But it doesn’t have to if you spend time reflecting on your needs and limits ahead of time. In this class Princess Kali will teach you how to have the most authentic & fulfilling kink experience possible. Over the last 18 years in the kink scene, Kali has developed a straightforward method for discovering your most authentic kinky self.


Going Beyond Yes, No, Maybe: How to Get Exactly What You Want in Sex and Kink – (brand new class!)

“So, what are you into?” is the most common and yet most useless question in sex and kink negotiations. It is time to move beyond a yes, no, maybe checklist and approach our scenes and sexuality with all the nuance they deserve. 

During this class, Kali will share the revolutionary negotiation concepts that she’s developed during the past 20 years as a lifestyle and professional kinkster. These easy-to-implement communication strategies will fine-tune your negotiations, no matter how long you’ve been playing, whether you are new or have been around the block more than a few years. Do you want to have more satisfying sexual experiences? Then you want to attend this class!


Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation (this is a general overview style class)

Humiliation is such a complex and varied fetish that many lifestyle and professional players hesitate to delve very deeply into the many fun options for embarrassing, degrading or humiliating their submissive. After attending this workshop however, both light and heavy players will be equipped with exciting new ideas to use and expand upon. Everything from dehumanization, to chastity training, to verbal humiliation and water-sports will be discussed, as well as How to Humiliate Happily- the ways to make sure that everyone is getting what they need from the experience.


Erotic Slut Shaming: Exploring Sexual Humiliation   

Erotic Slut-Shaming describes all the wonderful ways to play with transforming society’s disdain for slutty behavior into an erotic and arousing way to play with psychological torment. We’ll discuss a variety of ways to get into (or get your partner into) “slut-space” such as – nudity, sex, masturbation, orgasm control, and so much more!


A Deeper Shade of Red – Advanced Erotic Humiliation & Degradation(must be presented with Enough to Make You Blush as an intro class)

Humiliation isn’t just about smeared mascara and groveling under boots, it’s also about exploring vulnerability, trust, control, and sacrifice through absurdity, amusement, and consensual cruelty. If you’ve played with psychological torment before & are interested in learning more about your desires & potential new ways to play, then this class is definitely for you. We’ll dive deeper into more “hardcore” aspects of psychological sadism in ways that minimize risk and maximize creativity when playing on the edge.


The Ethics of Erotic Humiliation (brand new class!)

Have you ever wondered if it’s ethical to do humiliation play? It can be a confusing question from both outside and inside the play. How can anyone tell the difference between sexy adventures and abusive behavior when it all looks the same on the surface? In this facilitated discussion, Princess Kali will share her unique expertise from nearly 20 years of experience with consensual psychological torment. Learn how to navigate the individual ethics of your unique kinky and sexual play, including: consent, finding healthy motivation, aftercare, and more.


Featured Special Event

Humiliation Truth or Dare – an Interactive (& Consensual!) Game

Get ready for a game that’ll have you laughing (both WITH and AT people!) Dominants, switches and submissives can all enjoy this round-robin game of truth or dare. ‘Fess up about your desires, hear others darkest fantasies & get some action with kinky dares. Have as little, or as much control over your participation as you want, it’s all in good fun!

(This fun game can be done during a 1 hour workshop slot or as a special 90 minute event.)


Guess That Fetish!

Join Princess Kali for a perverted guessing game where you can win kinky, fun prizes! Do you know what Amaurophilia is? Do you experience Erythrophilia? Are you aroused by Lygophilia? This fast-paced, interactive exploration of the correct clinical name for fetishes will determine how well-versed you are in the adventures of perversion. Who’s the kinkiest person in the room? We’ll find out!


Introduction Classes

Packing Consent in Your Toybag

The hot-button topic of consent is everywhere right now.  On the face of it, it should be simple:  ‘Yes’ means yes and ‘no’ means no. But in a scene context, establishing and communicating consent requires thought and planning. This class is designed to cover consent themes of interest to all orientations and genders.  It will cover identifying and communicating what you want, negotiating with partners, navigating consent within a scene, how to withdraw consent, and more.  Whether you’re new to kink or been playing for years, this workshop will supply you with concrete tools to help you craft your own consent and understand others’ consent.


Coming Out Kinky

Princess Kali discusses the various aspects of coming out as kinky during this interactive presentation. She will help you set the context for the “coming out” conversation, highlight three reasons (political, health, and social) for coming out, note the various levels of the process of coming out, and cover some of the effects of coming out too. Kali will also give you some concrete tips on how to come out to important people in your life.


Dominance & Submission

You’re Not a DomBot!: Dominant Self-Care (Brand New Class!)

In erotica and porn, dominance always looks calm, cool and self-assured. But in the real world it’s a lot more complicated than that. The doms that we read about, watch and fetishize effortlessly engineer a cathartic scene for their temporary or long-term partner, dancing along the edge of physical or psychological torment, in the end returning gently to the “real world,” exhausted, renewed, satisfied.

These idealized dominants are responsible for brainstorming inspired scene ideas, framing the negotiation and making sure that the submissive communicates clearly, orchestrating emotionally and physically draining sessions, providing the perfect aftercare, all while wearing high-heels or skin-tight leather pants. It can be exhausting! It’s no wonder that even experienced tops can so often feel burned out, like kink has become an obligation instead of a source of joy. It takes a lot to be a dominant, whether it’s for a single scene, or in a longer term D/s relationship. Creativity, confidence, discipline, energy, care and so much more.

This class is designed to help dominants manage expectations – their own and their submissive’s – and to get the care they need to deal with top-drop (yes, top-drop is a real thing), and avoid longer-term kink-burnout. You will learn to let go of scene perfectionism, confront the notion that you’re supposed to be a mind-reader, and deflect the expectation that as a dominant, you’re an inexhaustible engine of unspeakable perversion. Learn how to get the support you need whether it’s from yourself, a well-trained partner or from someone (or somewhere) entirely different.


Authentic Domination

In this class, Princess Kali will dispel the fears and stereotypes commonly associated with domination.  Find the spark that ignites your dominant desires and reveal your inner-self.  Archetypes, style, integrity, communication skills and effective use of aftercare will all be considered in this brand new class which focuses less on the activity and more on the intention. This class is appropriate for any gender, sexual orientation or skill level.


How to Create & Maintain a Service Relationship

The term “service” often conjures images of household drudgery. But there are many ways someone can be “of service” beyond household tasks, including fetish service, sexual service, and so much more.

For some kinksters, there’s nothing like scrubbing away at the floor or toilet while a stern dominant looks on in silent judgment, or ignores them from the next room.  But if you think unwashed dishes and dirty laundry are the only options, this class will expand your service horizons no matter which side of the dynamic you’re on.

Many tops and dominants dream about having a well-behaved service submissive to call their very own. But finding one pre-trained can be rough and training away bad behaviors can be even rougher! Thankfully, there is a solution to make the process smoother for both sides. Join Princess Kali as she shares tips and techniques for anyone in a service based relationship (or anyone who wants to be!)


Managing Multiple Submissives

Whether you have a stable of submissives that serve you on a regular basis (or hope to in the future!), or you would just like to learn how to play & multi- task with multiple subs at dungeon parties to impress the crowd, this class will teach you fun and immediately usable techniques to keep more than one slut busy at a time! Using corporal tools, sensation play, light to heavy humiliation, bondage and predicaments you can become the ring leader of a circus of subs!


Becoming a Sexually Dominant Woman

There are a lot of myths about powerful women and they can get in the way when you want to tap into your femme power. Fortunately, Princess Kali can make it much easier to be both strong and feminine. She’ll help you discover your dominant persona and style, offer tips on becoming comfortable in that role, show you a few basic kinky toys, get you started on using sexy verbal play, and more. She’ll even give you some ideas for bringing service submission into your play so your partner can pamper you the way you deserve! Let your powerful side out and see how much fun she can be! This workshop focuses on women with male partners.


Women Taking Power: D/s Dynamic as Feminist Expression

Every woman has a right to choose what their experience of sexuality is, though many women struggle with fitting their desire to be submissive or dominant into their philosophy of feminism. This class will address the process that each woman goes through to claim their own power, regardless of which side of the D/s dynamic she prefers. (This is a group discussion)


Play & Practice

The Creative Kinksters’ Guide to a Sexy and Exciting Scene

A creative scene doesn’t always require an extensive set up, big muscles, or a lot of time. The Creative Kinkster philosophy says to use your brain rather than your brawn! Princess Kali will share dozens of concrete examples for both Tops AND Bottoms on how to get more inventive in designing your play time. Using inexpensive resources, imaginative mindsets and ‘real world’ situations that will help keep your play hot and happening often, without putting in any extra work! This class is appropriate for all sides of the power dynamic, all genders, all skill levels and differently-abled body types. It’s a seriously surprisingly versatile class!


The Lazy Top’s Guide to Pacing a Scene

Princess Kali has some simple (& some ingenious) tips for the ‘Lazy Top’ on how to effectively and easily set the pace of a scene, whether your kinky play lasts an hour, a weekend or even longer. Learn techniques to guide the timing and intensity of each session so that you are actually in control without having to work too hard at it (this is a ‘Lazy Top’ class after all!). This class can help anyone (new or advanced) learn creative tricks to tame time.


The Dragon-tail: The most versatile tool in your toy bag!

With a just a simple piece of rolled leather, you can elicit sensations ranging from stingy, like a single-tail or thuddy, like a paddle. Not much energy is needed to really make an impact with this unassuming toy, but with a fierce flick of the wrist there’s no denying the power of the dragon-tail! Learn various techniques, positions for your sub/bottom, and glamorous actions to impress your friends and dungeon-mates.


Face Slapping – Hand to Cheek

Not just for Hollywood Heroines and offended prudes, face slapping can be a playful and powerful way to get Your point across. From a light tap on the cheek to a back-swing bitch-slap, there are as many ways to do it, as there are reasons to enjoy it. Come learn the history and techniques of face slapping and leave the class feeling slap-happy!


Role-play for Everyone

Have you ever fantasized that you were a ruthless Pirate King taking advantage of a willing wench? Or how about a doctor giving a patient a “special” examination? Maybe you’re a student who needs a better grade in math class? Whatever your desires and fantasies, role-play can be a fun way to bring them out and explore new facets of your imagination. If you’ve ever wanted to give it a try and didn’t know how to get started, this workshop with is for you! She’ll help you create personas and characters, develop dialogue to keep things hot, make or find costumes and props, and much more. Come learn how to tap into your creative side to have all sorts of new sexual adventures and more fun than you thought possible! This class is open to individuals and couples.



Chastity Training: Learning to Love the Lock

Chastity Training and Orgasm Control can add a whole new (and surprising!) dimension to your power exchange or sexual relationships. Chastity often strikes terror as well as exhilaration in the heart of the one being locked. As a keyholder, you can play with a mix of tease and denial, power and control, and some physical suffering thrown in for good measure! Orgasm Control can be used for short periods (hours and days) or long periods (weeks, months, and years.) 

Whether you are using chastity to offer a demonstration of your submission, to prevent a bottom from getting off while they get you off, or to heighten sexual senses to bring both partners deeper into a more powerful D/s exchange. Making Chastity Training work for you is more possible than you think!


Ethical Financial Domination: Using Sense When Playing with Dollars

To this day, financial fetish and domination is one of the most misunderstood power play experiences. Like any expression of power, it has the potential for abuse and has gotten a rather bad rap because of the exploitation possibilities. 

However, using money within a healthy D/s relationship (whether lifestyle or professional) can be an exciting and edgy way to open up a whole new realm of submission and dominance. This class will give you concrete guidelines to enjoying this complex and sexy kinky activity.

This class focuses on concepts rather than specific tools because of the constantly changing landscape of platforms. It’s appropriate for dominants, submissives, and switches.


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