Is Ethical Financial Domination Even Possible?

Recently I received this message in my Fetlife inbox. “Is Ethical Financial Domination even possible?” I’m always a bit surprised to hear this from fellow kinksters, though I shouldn’t be. Can’t that question be applied to everything we do? “Is ethical [your favorite kink here] even possible?  Someone who doesn’t understand how consent and context is critically…

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Making Bank: A Budget Workbook for Erotic Entrepreneurs

For many years, Princess Kali approached the money she made from her career in sex work with an “easy come, easy go” attitude. There was always enough, and there was always more on the way. But as her money goals grew beyond impulsive daily desires and monthly rent, she realized she needed to shift her…

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Red Key Club: Creating a Client Retention Strategy (Virtual Class)

Creating a Client Retention Strategy May 2, 2020 10am to 12pm PDT   If you’re looking to build a sustainable business, then having a client retention strategy is critical. It’s tough to be successful if you’re constantly hustling for new applicants. This isn’t about being sneaky, or sleazy, or stringing clients along. Ethical business practices…

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Free Virtual Class for ProDommes – Defining Your Ideal Client

Free Virtual Class The ProDomme Playbook: Define Your Ideal Client Profile (also appropriate for PSOs, Cam Models, and other SWs) This is a scary time for many of us, and it’s important to take care of both our physical health and our emotional health right now. If you need to take this time to rest,…

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Free Virtual Class – Branding & Marketing for ProDommes 

The ProDomme Playbook: Branding and Marketing for ProDommes  (also appropriate for PSOs, Cam Models, and other SWs)   This is a scary time for many of us, and it’s important to take care of both our physical health and our emotional health right now. If you need to take this time to rest, you can…

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Authentic Kink: Create Your Best Experience

Kinksters often have to depend on erotica and porn to learn what kink looks and feels like, but unfortunately that can create a lot of myths, misunderstandings, and accidental mistakes. BDSM is focused on activities, but just going through the motions won’t guarantee you’ll have a happy, healthy experience. It can take years (and plenty…

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I remember the very first DomCon…

I remember the very first DomCon at the Beverly Garland hotel nestled in Hollywood. I don’t remember how I first heard about DomCon but I do remember how excited I was there. I was 23 years old and had only recently discovered the BDSM world and in my usual way through myself into it and…

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Can you teach submission?

One of the reasons I love twitter is the ability to have conversation with people around the world and get inspired by what others are experiencing and talking about. So when Domina Dynasty posed this question on twitter, I was intrigued… Can you teach someone to be submissive? It’s a really interesting question and like…

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Aftercare is for Everyone!

For the first decade of my exploration in the kink scene, whenever I heard about Aftercare it was in the context of something the dominant was supposed to provide to the submissive. It was very clear, due to the tone and nature of any discussion about Aftercare that there was definitely “One Twue Way” of…

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Living in a Post 50 Shades World

In 2011, three unassuming fan fiction books were published, and before long the world had collectively lost its mind. By 2012, over 20 million copies of the books had been sold and the mainstream world was suddenly aware of kink in a brand new way.  BDSM was being discussed and debated on every morning show…

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